FENTY BEAUTY – Thoughts & Review

FENTY BEAUTY – Thoughts & Review

Hi guys! I’m back from a little hiatus. I was able to continue school, but it’s definitely keeping me busy. When I’m not in class, I’m working, or fulfilling my duties as a member in various university organizations. Don’t get me wrong, I love being busy though!

With everything going on, it was nice to be able to get my hands on some Fenty Beauty, and enjoy some retail therapy, as I can’t engage in that as frequently as I used to.

So as everyone knows Rihanna dropped Fenty Beauty on Friday, September 8th, and snatched edges while doing so. As a public figure, known fashionista, and of course a divergent musical artist, we should have expected her makeup line to be so groundbreaking; but still no one was prepared.

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She launched her brand in over 17 countries all on the same day, releasing 40 foundation shades, 6 powder highlighters, 1 lip color, brushes & tools, and these beautiful innovative  products that she calls Match Stix.

Since I’m not the biggest makeup person, I only picked up the GlossBomb Universal Lip Luminizer, one of the Match Stick Matte Skinstick Concealers, a Killawatt Freestyle Highlighter, and 2 of her portable brushes.

Before we even get down to the shades and the quality of the product I received, the beauty of her packaging definitely sold me (especially since I got everything online). Each item has a sleek design, with either an iridescent white, or a frost glass finish. Until you have it in your hands, you can’t truly appreciate it for what it is.

Okay so let’s break down what I got!

Killawatt Freestyle Highlighter

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So I’m going to start off with my favorite product of hers, the Killawatt Freestyle Highlighter. This comes in 6 beautiful powder shades, and they’re creamy blendable, and highly pigmented. They have a crisp shimmer finish, and are definitely worth the price.

I purchased the shade Mean Money/Hu$tla Baby duo, which is a soft champagne and peachy gold combo. I absolutely adore the names! 4 of the Killawatt Freestyle Highlighters are duos with two complimentary shades. One operates as a more natural glimmer, and the other is a blinding and powerful shine. The other 2 are single shades, that are entirely equal in beauty. Trophy Wife, Metal Moon, Lightning Dust/Fire Crystal, Mean Money/Hu$tla Baby, Girl Next Door/Chic Phreak, and Ginger Binge/Moscow Mule.

At first application, I used her portable highlighter brush, and it glided on like a cream highlighter. It was very easy to blend, and just a PSA: a little goes a long ass way! This highlighter will literally last me a year or more.

I first off went for Mean Money/Hu$tla Baby because I’m always immediately attracted to soft gold tones. Since I have more yellow undertones, I feel that gold really complements my skin. After trying it on firstly at home, and then wearing it the next day and receiving a billion compliments, I knew this was an impeccable shade for me.

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Even at this, I’m still excited to try out Trophy Wife and Ginger Binge/Moscow Mule in the future.

This highlighter was priced at $34, which for a quality high-end highlighter, is a perfectly reasonable value.

Match Stix Matte Skinstick

This product is a hit. Her Match Stix Matte Skinsticks are longwear, lightweight, matte, and come in 20 shades differing from light to dark, warm to cool.

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I purchased the shade Suede, since I didn’t want anything too drastic, but more subtle. Because I’m not one for a lot of makeup, I use concealer instead of foundation (but I’m tempted because her foundations look amazing). I simply put it under my eyes, and on any dark spots, and then blend it in with a finishing powder. This is one product that I will say does not need a finish. It dries amazingly quick, and seemingly sets itself!

I haven’t worn it all day yet (as I’m more of a bare-faced everyday kinda girl) but I have all confidence that it’ll last a night out.

The Match Stix Matte Skinsticks are priced at $25, and also come in Cream Highlighters, and Contours! (I’m looking forward to trying the Match Stix Shimmer Skinstick in Rum!)

Portable Contour/Concealer & Highlighter Brushes

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I haven’t bought new brushes since maybe 2 years ago (please don’t roast me), so I decided to purchase two brushes of hers that I know I would really use. Aside from an eyeshadow brush (which she doesn’t have, yet), I love a bomb highlighter brush, and a good concealer brush as well.

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These completely surpassed my expectations. The brushes are uber soft, and very gentle. The highlighter brush is a slanted angled medium-density beauty, that works amazingly well with her powder highlighters (and I’m sure they’ll work beautifully with her Shimmer Skinsticks as well). The concealer brush is rounded and soft, dense enough to gently and effectively blend out her cream Matte Skinsticks.

Each portable brush is $24. For someone who hasn’t bought brushes in a minute, I was fine with the price.

Gloss Bomb Universal Lip Luminizer

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Last but, certainly, not least, I ordered her Gloss Bomb Universal Lip Luminizer; her sole lip color. This was extremely daring, which just one of the things I love about Rihanna. She marketed this lip gloss as a universal “gotta-have-it” rose nude lip for all skin tones, with explosive shine. Her “stop-everything, give-it-to-me gloss”, feels as luscious as it looks, and is packed with moisturizing Shea, finished wth a decadent peachy-vanilla scent.

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I was so excited to try this, as everyone that knows me, KNOWS I’m a gloss girl. I love me some lipgloss. But then, I’m also someone who prefers nude tones over color, and I love a good nude or clear shine lip. This was it for me. It has the perfect amount (so a lot) of shine, rose nude tone, and isn’t sticky–like at all. It slides on, and moisturizes your lips throughout the day, thanks to the Shea she ever-so-gracefully slipped in there. Gotta love your Black girls.

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Her Universal Lip Luminizer was price at a beautiful $16.

I literally cried, this price was so perfect.


All in all, my edges were most definitely snatched. Her brand, her drop, her visuals… Everything literally took my breath away. I waited online behind 11,000 people to get my hands on Fenty Beauty, and I’m so glad I did.

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I was elated to finally see so many products for all my black and brown girls out there, and completely appreciated the amount of shades she had in–well, everything. In her first exclusive makeup line, she did more in one day than most makeup companies have attempted to do in years.

So far, I give everything I purchased a 15/10! I’m completely looking forward to trying out more of her lovely products, and CAN’T WAIT for her Holiday Collection drop this month. I’m really looking forward to seeing what she has in store for the makeup community (and my edges) in the future.

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RiRi’s done it, yet again.

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Florida Vacation: Highlights & OOTDs

Florida Vacation: Highlights & OOTDs

Hey all! I went on vacation to Florida about a month ago, so I’m gonna share the highlights and some of what I wore in The Sunshine State!

Please keep in mind this was a 2 1/2 week vacation, so it’ll be quite a long post!

Alright, so let’s dive in:

Orlando

Our first stop was Orlando, Florida! Y’all can go ahead and guess why we are there… Disney World! Before my mom passed, first week of May, my parents had been planning a trip to Disney World for the entire family. Most of this is in part to the fact that my youngest sister (9), hasn’t been to DW, but my 13-year-old sister and I have. My dad wanted to make sure that after the tragedy that happened, we’re still completing tasks, memories, and making stories that my Mom really wanted to manifest.

First things first, I have to make sure you guys know that this was a road trip. We live on the more northern side of Illinois, so since I already know you’re calculating how many long hours we were cooped up in car, I’ll tell you: 19. We did stop quite a bit more than we usually do for road trips, but the adventure itself was really fun.

When we finally arrived in Orlando, we stayed at Embassy Suites, and it was beauuuuutiful. When we go on road trips, we typically cook a ton of food, and bring it with us. So even though we actually wanted the Hyatt, we didn’t stay there because their rooms didn’t have microwaves in the room lmao. We don’t eat out much, and even though we did on the trip, most times we prefer home-cooked meals, even if we’re away from home.

On our second day in Orlando, we headed over to Disney World! We went ahead and chose Magic Kingdom, because my baby sister is nine, she loves princesses, Mickey, Minnie, and the works, and I just feel like that should always be the first routine stop at DW. We got there at 1pm, and left at 11pm, so we definitely got our fill. Tons of rides, attractions, shows, and signatures, but the only two I really cared about were Minnie and Princess Tiana (my spirit animal aside from Rihanna and Shonda Rhimes). Tiana and I are actually twins if y’all didn’t know. People even say that I look a bit like her. I mean, she’s a beautiful black woman, I’m a beautiful black woman, she’s an entrepreneur, I’m an entrepreneur, she loves to cook, I love to cook, she’s got Naveen, and I’ve got… well… Okay onto my outfit of the day.

The Outfit

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This was probably the most simple outfit of the entire trip as it was Disney World and it was like 90 degrees for most of the day.

I simply paired together a black Old Navy tank top–which was a steal on clearance– ($9), some cute flower-patched high waisted shorts ($26), my Pink cap (freebie!), and my coral Michael Kors trainers ($125). It was way too hot for anything else.

On the Road Again

This time we were headed for Miami, it was a 2 hour drive, and we were gonna go sight-seeing afterwards so I figured I’d dress in something comfortable and cute.

The Outfit

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This was one of my favorite outfit’s of the entire trip just because the jeans are probably the most comfortable I own, and I love that shade of pink. I pulled my hair back into a fishtail, and the only makeup I bothered with were filling in my eyebrows. The  top is from VS Pink ($26.95), and it’s paired with distressed light-wash high-waisted jeans from Hollister ($14.99), and some  lace up sandals from Windsor ($20). Super cute, super fresh, super simple.

Miami

After a week in Orlando, we ended up spending another in Miami, which I was completely fine with, of course. We spent a day downtown and did some shopping at Lord & Taylors, and other local vendors. This was also where I got my super cute Michael Kors backpack, retailing at $300. I managed to nab it at $150!

The Outfit

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Key West

We stayed in Key West for about 3 days, and it was beautiful.

The Outfit & The Key West Historic Seaport

My outfit for the second day is the one I’ll highlight. This was my favorite location as well. I put together a pair of Skinny Green Cargos from Hollister (you must now realize that this is proabbly the only place I get my jeans), a cream tank, my new Kors JetSet Backpack, and those handy-dandy sandals again!PicMonkey Collage-9.pngtwo

The African Cemetery at Higgs Beach

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This beach was especially humbling for me, as it was not only a beach, but an African Slave Cemetery. If you can’t read the print in the picture, it reads:


Near this site lie the remains of 294 African men, women and children who died in Key West in 1860. In the summer of that year the U.S. Navy rescued 1,432 Africans from three American-owned ships engaged in the illegal slave trade. Ships bound for Cuba were intercepted by the U.S. Navy, who brought the freed fricans to Key West where they were provided with clothing, shelter and medical treatment. They had spent weeks in unsanitary and inhumane conditions aboard the slave ships. The U.S. steamships Mohawk, Wyandott and Crusader rescued these indviduals from Wildfire, where 507 were rescued; the Willam, where 513 were rescued; and the Bogata, where 417 survived. In all, 294 Africans succumed at Key West to various diseases caused by conditions of their confinement. They were buried in unmarked graves on the present dat Higgs Beach where West Martello Tower now stands. By August, more than 1,000 survivers left for Liberia, West Africa, a country founded for former American slaves, where the U.S. government supported them for a time. Hundreds died on the ships before reaching Liberia. Thus, the survivors were returned to their native land, Africa, but not to their original homes on that continent.


Whenever my family vacations, we always try to visit a couple historical sites, but this one was of utmost importance to me.

Conch Shells Souvenir Shop

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Key West was our final stop, and then we finally embarked on the 28 hour drive home. All in all it was an super fun, super relaxing, and super long trip. I can’t wait for my next vacation!

Go on any vacations this summer? Questions about Florida or my outfits? Let me know down below!

P.S. Thanks so much for 800 followers in just a month of me rejoining WordPress!

Always,

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Dt Napes: OOTD

Dt Napes: OOTD

Last week, my family and I went to Downtown Naperville, IL, and the weather was beautiful. The water looked crisp, the sun was bright and shining, and the riverwalk was somewhat empty. So like any other normal melanated civilian, I saw it fit to have an impromptu photoshoot (using an iPhone 7 camera of course).

The Outfit

My outfit consisted of a simple H&M Basic’s Latte Scalloped Tee (2 for $10), Dark Wash Hollister Super Skinny Jeans ($25), Cream, Brown, and Reptile Print Franco Sarto Sandals ($40), an Olive Green American Rag Cargo Jacket ($30), and my JetSet Cream Michael Kors Purse ($150). I accessorized with some bracelets from my neighborhood Illumena Jewelry ($30), and a Pandora Bracelet ($150). My outfit was just over $400. Again, keep in mind that these items have been acquired over a series of years; it wasn’t a one time buy!

The Photoshoot

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 I digress

This was totally unplanned, but really fun. I’ll have to make a habit of this.

Until next time!

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2016 Nordstrom Fall Beauty Trend Show: Oakbrook

2016 Nordstrom Fall Beauty Trend Show: Oakbrook

This past Saturday, October 15th, my mother, my sister, my aunt, and I were invited to Oakbrook’s 2016 Nordstrom Fall Beauty Trend Show.

Let’s talk the outfit first.

The Outfit

My top was a thick knit cream sweater from H&M; simple, comfortable, yet still chic. My jeans, oh my jeans: dark wash distressed high waisted denim from Hollister. For accessories, I decided on a cute and simple Kors Jetset Purse, my Fitbit Alta, two of my favorite Hai Panda Bracelets, my Pandora Rose bracelet and my favorite statement necklace from Forever 21. I finished the outfit with a simple pair of nude flats from Forever 21, and my favorite American Rag Cargo Jacket.

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High-Waisted Distressed Hollister Jeans: $25 / Michael Kors Jet Set Purse: $90IMG_5123.JPGForever 21 Opalescent Statement Necklace: $20 / Hai Panda Beaded Bracelets: $32IMG_5153.JPGPandora Rose Braclet: $125 / Gold Limited Edition Fitbit Alta: $150

The entire outfit was under $500 of course – this isn’t the Grammy’s.

Keep in mind that this all wasn’t purchased at the same time. I’ve acquired some of my favorite statement pieces, such as the Pandora Rose Bracelet and the Fitbit over the years, those being gifts to myself, and the Kors purse being a birthday gift. You just have to be a savvy shopper 😉

Oh yeah, you probably want to hear about the actual event.

The Event

We arrived at 4am, landing us first place in line, and with our blankets in tow, proceeded to tough out the autumn chill for 3 hours – then in which the doors would be opening.

We shared some laughs with others in line, aching for 6:30am, when they would bring out the music and coffee to tide us over until the event began. I didn’t even drink the coffee, I used it to warm my hands. I’m sure it tasted swell though.

The time was finally 7:30am and my crew and I were ready to work the event. The doors finally opened, and after the initial bliss the wave of heat gave us, my little sister and I strutted into the Nordstrom department store, with my mom and aunt right behind us. Gladly accepting our complimentary goodie totes, we made our way up the two flights of escalators, and took our place front row, stage left, excited for the trunk show to finally begin.

Every trend show is exciting, filled with people who appreciate fashion and beauty just as much as I do. It was exciting to preview the upcoming Fall and Winter trends, as well as new products from some of the most popular cosmetic and fragrance companies. This year’s host, Gilbert Vera – definitely my favorite in the past 3 years – bounced out and started the show off perfectly. He was charming, funny, and knew just which buttons to push to get the crowd excited.

The Models

The fashion show was broken down into two distinct concepts that somehow manage to work together: Modern Romance (ultra-pretty neutrals) and Dark Glamour (bold color).

 

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  1. Going from right to left, the first model wore a For Love & Lemons white dress with crochet detailing and sexy black thigh high boots.
  2. The second, a Laura Mercier Model, wore an Alicia + Olivia cream sweater with beaded dealing and a black pleated wide leg pant.
  3. The third was one of my favorites, she sported a Ted Baker London black gown with a bow detail.
  4. The fourth, a MAC model, wore an Olivia Palermo + Chelsea28 black leather overalls and a Leith ivory ruffled high collar blouse.
  5. The fifth, my absolute favorite, wore a Trouvé black poet’s blouse, and a rose cigarette pant. The shoes were to die for.
  6. The Charlotte Tilbury model on the far left, wore a Kate Spade New York blush pink sweater with a rosette bow, and a Milly black modern miniskirt.

You don’t know how hard it was to resist the urge to strut the runway with them. Très chic

After a couple minutes of music, the DJ stops and says “I just wanted to say that the two girls in the front row, in the blue shirt and the green jacket, were the very first in line”. My sister and I looked around and realized in .02 seconds that we were the girls in the blue shirt and the green jacket. Gilbert walks over and puts the microphone in front of my sister, asking how long we’d been there, and once he heard 4am, he suggested that we receive a gift. He comes back from the gift table and hands us this Deluxe Dior Gift Set. This was her second year coming to the trunk show and my third so we were definitely hyped to have received such a  beautiful gift.

The Deluxe Dior Gift Set: $200 Value

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Ms. Dior Absolutely Blooming Perfume: $90 / Dior 5 Colors Skyline Palette: $63 / Dior Vernis Nail Lacquer: $27 / DiorShow Mascara: $28.50

Only about 20 minutes into the show and we’re on Trish Mcevory watching this gorgeous lady talk about the ‘Chic Collection’ Planner’ ($225), and it consisted of everything you’d need to get ready in the morning in under 10 minutes. Gilbert takes center stage again, and pauses, walking over to my mom, and asks for her brochure (it consisted of all of the designers we’d be seeing throughout the show), and he says, “I just want to point out that this lovely lady right here is taking amazing notes on each product we’ve seen. Like look at this!” He literally walked around and showed everyone additions my mom made with her loose cursive penmanship. He’s like “Let’s give her something shall we?” The crowd cheers, and my mom, my sister, my aunt and I are beyond excited for the second time that day. He comes back and gives her a $200 value Trish Mcevoy gift set. I nearly died, twice.

The Trish Mcevoy Deluxe Gift Set: $200 Value

Screen Shot 2017-06-16 at 2.47.37 AM.pngNo. 9 Blackberry and Vanilla Musk Eau De Parfum: $85.50 / No. 9 Blackberry and Vanilla Musk Enriched Body Cream: $60 / No. 9 Blackberry and Vanilla Musk Body Polish and Sugar Scrub: $55

The Deluxe Philosophy Goodie Bag: $120 Value

I also received a beautiful Philosophy all-around sampler bag. Screen Shot 2017-06-16 at 2.48.26 AMThe show moves on to talk about another 15 or so brands and their newest products. I’ll put some of my favorites down below.

MAC ‘C’est Chic’ Matte Eyeshadow Palette: $65

IMG_7768.JPGNow this is a palette I can really commit to. Whenever I buy palette’s from MAC, I always opt for the customizable “build your own palette” option (only available in standalone MAC stores and online), because I tend to favor buying palettes in which I can use all the shades. Too many a time – and I know this is true for African-American and other colored women and men – there will be shades in a palette that I love and that I finish first, shades that are ‘eh’ on my skintone and therefore are not used as much, and shades that don’t fit me at all, or that I’d never wear. Building my own palette at MAC guarantees that each shade in my palette will be used equally, and look equally beautiful on my chocolate skin.

But this ready-made palette may be a contender. I love matte shadows, and each one in here is matte. What I will say is that for each matte shade, I appreciate the shimmer version of it, if you want to go for a simple one-tone look. Despite that minor flaw, I can definitely see myself getting this palette for Christmas 😉

The shades include: You’re Bluffing (soft peach), Soft Brown (soft golden peachy-brown), Demitasse (midtone brown), Corduroy (muted reddish-brown), Dash of Mocha (dark beige brown), Pale, Please (washed out pink), Oo La Café (midtone neutral), Choc-ful (murky midtone pink), All’s Rosy (deep pink rose), Embark (intense reddish brown), Drawing a Blanc (creamy beige), Fogged in Dirty (grey), Pinch of Sage (warm grey), Dance in the Dark (dark brown), and Raven-Eyed (deep dark navy).

Jo Malone London’s ‘Basil & Neroli’ Cologne: $65 – $130

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It’s fresh, light, eccentric, with a herbaceous warmth, and a citrusy twist. A perfect everyday scent, and I plan on picking up my very own 1 oz. bottle.

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‘Laila’ Fragrance: $56 – $76

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Laila is this beautiful and clean scent by Geir Ness of Norway. It’s infused with Norwegian mountain wildflowers and with a touch of fruit inflections. What makes it better? The creator, Geir Ness, dedicated it to his mother, Laila, who used to take him up to the Norwegian Mountains when he was a young boy. Can we say ‘cute’?

Fresh ‘Vitamin Nectar Vibrancy-Boosting Face Mask’: $62

Behind-the-scenes-at-Fresh-Beauty-s-lab_article_full-1.jpgThe representatives at the counter gave me a free facial with this, and I have to tell you it is one of the best masks I have ever tried, aside from  Lush Fresh Face Masks. It smells amazing, and it’s actually 50% real crushed citrus fruits, including oranges, lemons and clementines. Its vitamin fruit complex contains vitamins C, E and B5, so it’s perfect for anyone with natural vitamin deficiencies, such as myself. The lemon and orange fruit extracts and minerals are supposed to help revitalize skin, and give it a more vibrant glow and soft texture. Of course I can’t judge that off of one use, so this is something else I plan on purchasing during the Christmas season.

Photo credit: prestigeonline.com

I digress

All in all this was the best Nordstrom Trend Show I’ve been to out of the three total times I have attended. It was lively, rewarding, and had an amazing host; so thanks so much to Gilbert Vera and Nordstrom for making this one the finest yet.

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Even if you didn’t attend a Trend Show (you should!), what looks are you most excited for during the Fall/Winter? Ultra-pretty neutrals, bold color, or a little bit of both? I’d love to hear from you!cropped-femme-rewritten-banner-14.png

 

 

Not So Good to be a Good Girl

Not So Good to be a Good Girl

For decades, possibly even centuries, mass media and popular culture have focused on teaching girls to embrace a version of selfhood that is particularly damaging to their potential greatness. Our authority, our authenticity, has been staggered by the pressure to be “good”-selfless, modest, kind, gorgeous, and submissive. Growing up we have been told how to treat our bodies and when it is acceptable to show them – if at all.

As women, we live in the ultimate paradox of a lose-lose situation. Our bodies are constantly held to the standard of absolute excellence and the ways we choose to display our sexuality are often (always) abhorred.

The problem is, we do not emphasize the correct message for both the male and female population–at least not as much as we should.  It is almost always acceptable for boys and men to act in provocative ways, and that girls and women should be repressed and unstimulating. We constantly impress upon women that they should have no sexual freedom, yet, at the same time, men are generally admired if they have high levels of sexual activity. This ideology opens the door for a dangerous sense of entitlement, which in turn, can facilitate a culture that excuses harassment, rape, domestic violence, and other injustices that women face disproportionately more than men.

In the media, and unfortunately perpetuated throughout daily life, people constantly focus on the visible aspects that make women women, but when they themselves venture to be proud of their own anatomy, or attempt to be sexually liberated, it is painted as engaging in activities “unfit for a lady”, or they are slandered as whores and sluts. Women are only expected to be sexual if it is for the purpose of pleasing a man, or in the pursuit of bearing a man’s offspring. The ultimate consequence of such a primitive mindset, is the toxic message that “a woman’s body exists entirely for the consumption of men”… (or man rather, because if a woman has more than one sexual partner that is another reason for her to receive a scarlet letter). The next inference will be that a woman’s mind, a woman’s consciousness, exists solely to serve man.

That could not be further from the truth.

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It is more emphasized for girls to protect themselves from sexual harassment than it is to teach men to respect the women they come in contact with. Disseminating itself into rape culture, the resulting idea is that it is the victim’s fault that they were sexually assaulted. Subsequently, the message that arises is that they sanctioned their harassment by being too much of a tease and that the way they were dressed warranted the maltreatment they received. This speaks as if an outfit with slightly more coverage could convince a potential rapist that their payoff may no longer be worth the struggle. This, in turn, communicates to society (and young women, more importantly) that the way a woman dresses determines how she is to be treated.

Historically, much of the world’s society has been a patriarchal bureaucracy intended to enforce the assumption that men are to be incomparably successful and “their” women are to be submissive, sophisticated, domesticated mates. Mothers and daughters are to be seen, never heard, and to bear offspring whenever their husbands so please. Such an unspoken rule and regulation on one sex tells a single group that they are entitled to the other, and the other, that their inherent obligation is to please.

As contradictory to common sense this may seem, if you have a daughter, don’t raise her to be a “good girl”. Instead of constantly controlling and encouraging anxiety with countless warnings about the unavoidable dangers of the opposite sex, engage her in conversation. Listen to what she has to say, then reflect, and advise. The appreciation and voiced affirmation of a girl’s feelings at a young age can powerfully influence her emotional confidence and success as a woman. With the added pressure from mainstream media, it can be quite challenging for young women to focus on forming their own authentic identities. In my afflicted opinion, females are more perceptive to the emotions of others and empathetic to what they feel. Research has shown that girls develop emotional intelligence earlier than their male counterparts. Having said this, it is important to understand that this innate gift is stifled by the need to constantly hide what they truly feel. When our emotional expression is perpetually depicted as meaningless, we begin to regard other people’s sensitivity at the expense of our own. Coming from personal experience, when focusing on achieving someone else’s definition of perfection, girls begin to discount their own feelings. We do this with such commitment, that by the time we turn into young women, we have found it consummately rational to censor our own consciousness. Consequently, we begin to surround ourselves with individuals who do not value our feelings. We can’t blame them, though, because at the end of the day, we give others no reason to care, if we don’t even pretend that we do. This constant neglect of our own emotional disparity, can, in turn, affect our mental and physical health. Focus on encouraging young girls to discover aspects of themselves that they can translate into conducive and cathartic outlets.

Everyone has to find something to give their mind a break.

A lack of care for our emotional fitness translates into other facets of life–especially relationships. Above all, it keeps us from falling, and remaining, in love with ourselves.

I think we females have two points in our lives where we are consciously able conceptualize the meaning of loving ourselves: as candid, innocuous children, and when we have experienced enough in life to be able to filter through the bullshit and find our own beautiful truths.

I suppose we’ll all get to that point someday.

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